It's far too simple to think of those we disagree with as the "other," as being fundamentally different from us and not adhering to our principles. However, rather than fostering understanding and cooperation, this way of thinking can result in polarization and conflict.
According to studies, seeing people as individuals rather than as the embodiment of their views or behaviors can help decrease prejudice and boost empathy (Dovidio, Hewstone, Glick, & Esses, 1991). This is due to the fact that when we see others as humans, we are more likely to take into account their viewpoint and make an effort to comprehend where they are coming from.
"...seeing people as individuals rather than as the embodiment of their views or behaviors can help decrease prejudice and boost empathy."
Engaging in "perspective-taking," which entails deliberately attempting to perceive things from the perspective of others, is one approach to better see others as individuals (Davis, 1983). Even though it can be difficult sometimes, especially when we have a strong disagreement with someone, cultivating this skill is crucial for both individuals and our society as a whole.
Concentrating on areas of agreement is another useful but often underutilized tactic. In today's "hair trigger" environment we tend to ignore areas of agreement and dive directly into conflict. Even when we disagree with someone, there are probably some things we have in common in terms of beliefs or life experiences. By concentrating on these similarities, we may close or at least lessen the gap that divides us and foster mutual understanding.
It's crucial to keep in mind that people are more than just their opinions and deeds. Every individual is a complicated being with unique experiences, drives, and viewpoints. Stereotypes can be lessened and understanding can be increased when we see others as actual people rather than just as representations of a certain group or ideology.
Of course, seeing others as individuals does not obligate us to support everything they do or say. It's acceptable to hold constructive, civil disagreements. However, when we see others as individuals, we are more inclined to approach these disputes with empathy and an open mind as opposed to with scorn or judgment.
It's acceptable and beneficial to differ and to engage in civil debates.
Consequently, seeing others as individuals rather than as the embodiment of their ideas or deeds can assist to lessen bias, heighten empathy, and promote cooperation. It's critical to develop this talent, particularly in our increasingly fragmented world.
Allen L. Abbott
Ascent Executive Coaching LLC
References:
Davis, M. H. (1983). Measuring individual differences in empathy: Evidence for a multidimensional approach. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 44(1), 113-126.
Dovidio, J. F., Hewstone, M., Glick, P., & Esses, V. M. (1991). Stereotypes and prejudice: Its automatic and controlled components. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 60(2), 188-199.
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